A crisis is often a diversion from the real problems. It’s a way of putting off a choice or a decision. A choice very often means loss. A crisis keeps the drama and adrenalin going which is exciting. It’s a way of drawing attention to an underlying problem. There are only 3 ways through a couples crisis. You can both agree to work together on the real issues in the relationship You can agree to split up. You can agree to stick to the status quo. All 3 solutions will have consequences.