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“There are two kinds of sex, classical and baroque. Classical sex is romantic, profound, serious, emotional, moral, mysterious, spontaneous, abandoned, focused on a particular person, and stereotypically feminine. Baroque sex is pop, playful, funny, experimental, conscious, deliberate, amoral, anonymous, focused on sensation for sensation's sake, and stereotypically masculine. The classical mentality taken to an extreme is sentimental and finally puritanical; the baroque mentality taken to an extreme is pornographic and finally obscene. Ideally, a sexual relation ought to create a satisfying tension between the two modes or else blend them so well that the distinction disappears. Lovemaking cannot be totally classical unless it is also totally baroque, since you cannot abandon all restraints and so attain a classical intensity. In practice, however, most people are more inclined to one mode than to the other. A very classical person will be incompatible with a very baroque person …


How are ambitious professional women expected to handle motherhood in terms of their career? It's the women who carry, give birth and feed the babies. Our bodies are made for that. We also know how important it is for mother and baby to bond, which doesn't always happen overnight. In the first year of a baby's life he or she learns through the experience of continual care and feeding about trust and intimacy. Psychologically this is a crucial time in the baby's development and will influence their future relationships.
What is a woman to do? In an ideal world she would take a year off but in the real world her career won't wait for her. She can pay another woman to look after her baby, leave it with a childminder and other babies, or go to a creche with several carers. These options are hugely expensive, but so are our mortgages and lifestyle.What about fathers? Will they take a year's career break? Unlikely.
Being a parent is for life. There is the relentless…